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Relationships, like managing your finances, take work. Luckily, there are some strategies recommended for getting your financial house in order that can help you navigate tricky issues in your romance, too.

It helps to know where each of you is coming from.

Like many other personality traits, people get their ideas about money from their

parents. Recognizing this dynamic is the first step toward defusing conflict. It’s helpful to articulate what your parents’ relationship with money was like so that your partner knows why you think the way you do, and can respond in kind. That’s good advice to apply to any other of your partner’s deep-seated attributes that drive you crazy.

A little space is a good thing.

Couples should keep separate bank accounts so that both have a measure of responsibility and independence when it comes to their finances. But they should have a joint account for most shared responsibilities like Bills, vacations etc. This line of thinking also can be applied to your interests and hobbies. You should have something you do together that you both enjoy.

Keep the lines of communication open.

Good communication is crucial when you’re talking about money, and it’s true for other parts of your relationship as well. Being able to talk about issues in a calm, rational way without expressing judgment about your partner’s opinion—even if you disagree—is the best way to work through challenges without fostering resentment or letting hurt feelings build up. Couples should carve out time once a month to sit and go over their finances. Like date night, but instead of dinner and a movie, you spend the evening working in tandem to solve a problem, figure out how to achieve a goal, or plan for your future. Come to think of it, that’s not a bad way to spend a regular date night either; it doesn’t have to be all deep thoughts and heart-to-hearts, but putting down the popcorn once in a while to discuss more important things could strengthen your relationship in the long run.

If you communicate regularly and keep good records, it keeps you from having a major falling out.

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