untitledHello Ezien,
I am 24 years old, and have been through a few serious and not so serious relationships. I have experienced the honeymoon phase, the multi-year companionships and the heartbreaks. I have tried to be as introspective as possible and learn from those experiences- I feel at peace with most of them.
I recognize that there is much more to experience. I understand that there is great joy and pain to be had in relationships- but for the first time in a long time, I don't feel like anything is missing in

my life anymore. Being able to fight the loneliness is turning into a joyful habit that tells me that I am becoming more independently happy, that my life is complete with purpose, friends and family.

At the same time, I am wary of one day chancing upon this elusive "one" person who will significantly tip that balance. I keep hearing this from my married or happily committed friends that it will just "happen". It feels very out of my control.
What if you are so happy with the state you are in, that you don't want to disrupt it? (By overcoming FOMO or biological urges or habit-reward loops).
Why is one of the prevailing reactions to "wanting to stay single", that you are emotionally damaged or unavailable (or asexual)?
Is it okay (or healthy) to not have a romantic relationship as a major goal or outcome in life?
Would love to hear your thoughts, I am very open-minded to both sides.

Yours Nneka

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